Month: February 2018

“Self-Doubt Diet”

This past Saturday was the first day of our “Self-Doubt Diet.” It is said that, “What you feed will grow.” Studies show that anything you do for 21 days becomes a habit (good or bad). Over the next 21 days, we are going to feed Self-Worth and starve Self-Doubt.

The goal of this “Self-Doubt Diet” is to see ourselves as God sees us, believe it, and reject anything contrary, regardless of who/where it comes from, even from within.

For many, we have only heard the negative things spoken about us, we allowed it to continue, and somewhere along the way, we accepted it as true. But, those days shall be no more!

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2 NKJV

I believe the keys to success on any diet are:

Commitment ~ When we love someone we are committed to that individual. Let’s love ourselves enough to commit to nourishing our Self-Worth.

Balance ~ Maintaining proper balance requires mental and emotional stability. We can’t grow without it. It requires a level of maturity and transparency to see both sides of the spectrum. Even when we err, we can learn from it, and move on.

Discipline ~ Self-control is a MUST! We have to learn how to control our impulses, emotions, and desires. We can’t be moved by what we, or others “feel” about us. We have to rely on what God says about us.

And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. John 8:32

Here are some of the Truths we are going to speak and decree over ourselves for the next 21 days. Repeat after me:

I am Beautiful ~ You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you. Song of Solomon 4:7 ESV

I am Strong and Courageous ~ Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9 NKJV

I am Fearless ~ The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me? Psalm 118:6 NKJV

I am Confident ~ In the fear of the Lord there is strong confidence, And His children will have a place of refuge. Proverbs 14:26 NKJV

I am Bold ~ And also for me, that words may be given to me in opening my mouth boldly to proclaim the mystery of the gospel. Ephesians 6:19 ESV

So, That Settles It. Will you join me on this 21 day journey on the “Self-Doubt Diet?” If you do it the right way, the results will be astounding. You have nothing to lose, except “Self-Doubt.”

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“He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not…”

As I laughed loudly at the phrase S.A.D. (Singles Awareness Day), mainly because I had no clue that was the new name for Valentine’s Day (even though I’m still single), I thought about all the times we, married and single, question whether God really loves us. I can honestly say I’ve had moments where I’ve pondered, “He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not? To which He rebuttals, “He Loves Me Not? Not So!”

We cannot measure God’s love based on the world’s scale. The world defines love as “Gimme what I want. Let me have my way. Make me happy.” Sometimes God doesn’t give us what we want because He is protecting us, He has something better in store for us, or because we haven’t done the last thing He instructed us to do in preparation for what we want to receive from Him (Yes, He requires us to do our part too). When God doesn’t give us what we want, when we want it, we question His love for us, but God’s version of love is…well see for yourself:

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 NKJV

Oftentimes, what the world calls “Love” is really “Infatuation.” Infatuation causes you to believe you have to have this person now, but after a while (short-lived), the “Love Fades.” That’s because it wasn’t Love! Then there are those who will settle for someone they really don’t Love, just to avoid being alone.

So, That Settles It. Once we experience/embrace the True Love of God, anything less just won’t do. The most beautiful thing happens: We learn to truly love ourselves; which in turn gives us the confidence to set the standard for how others should love us. Now, concerning your internal debate, “He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not,” the correct answers are as follows:

He Loves Me? YES

He Loves Me Not? Not So!

We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in His love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. 1 John 4:16 NLT

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“Know Your Worth!”

Recently, I was speaking with a Financial Advisor and she attempted to tell me that my credit needed work. She even mentioned several things that I needed to work on. I insisted that her information was incorrect, so she confidently told me she would send me the email; and I could not wait. I was adamant that there was nothing wrong with my credit. Sure enough when I opened the document, at the very top, the date reflected 1/31/17. I knew it! I immediately replied and (politely) informed the Advisor of her oversight. A little while later, she called me and apologized for her mistake. She then confirmed what I was trying to say all along: I have Good Credit!

Notice how I refused to settle for what she said? It’s funny how bold and confident we are when we know that we know that we are right. I knew I had worked really hard on rebuilding my credit and her information had to be incorrect. There was a time that I would have just accepted what she said without any objection, because I hadn’t done anything concerning my credit. I didn’t have a clue what my credit score was.

When we are not secure in our true identity, we have a tendency to allow people to say anything about us: good, bad, or ugly. Not only do we allow it, we believe it!

After our conversation, I thought about how important it is to Know Your Worth. When you don’t, you give people permission to decide your worth based on their opinions and perceptions. Those days are over for me, and hopefully for you too!

For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. (Ephesians 2:10 NLT)

You acquire a new level of confidence when you learn your true value, and no person or thing can change that. I have this saying that I wholeheartedly believe, “Your perception is your reality.” That’s what I tell people who try to push their view of me on me. In their eyes, that may be how they perceive me, but that does not mean it is true. This is why it is so important to Know Your Worth.

So many of us have allowed others to tell us who we are, and more importantly, who we are not. The devil is a liar! And so are those people who refuse to see us as God sees us.

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. (Psalm 139:14 NKJV)

So, That Settles It. To Know Your Worth does not mean that you have it all together. On the contrary, it means you know your strengths and your weaknesses and you are confident enough to acknowledge both. You are grateful for your strengths and you are also grateful that even in your weaknesses, God’s strength is made perfect; therefore you can boast in your weaknesses. You remain humble because you have come into the realization that none of us are perfect, but that God still loves us in spite of us. When you come into the true knowledge of who you are, it’s a rite of passage. You become liberated and now your liberty enables you to help liberate others who may be bound by the opinions of mere men.

And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong. (2 Corinthians 12:9 NKJV)

**This week’s blog post is dedicated to my mommy, Yvette Marie Hill 2/7/1957 – 12/6/2005, Happy Birthday Mommy!!!**

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